How you treat people

I often think about how people basically treat other people the way they like to be treated themselves. For example a person who really enjoys a gets a good feeling from people being nice and friendly will generally be nice and friendly to people they meet. Sensitive people are more affected by people and the world around them and so they themselves will more often than not treat people how they themselves like to be treated, with care and thought and will go out of there way to not step on anyones toes or hurt there feelings. A person who is say very logical and analytical who doesnt operate from feelings and may be wary of their emotions and will treat people the way they themselves like to be treated. I have no idea where this is going.

As you grow up and get older you realise that everyone in the world is not like you. Different people operate and work differently, they are attracted to different things, see things differently, have differing beliefs, focuses etc. I would put myself in the feeling category as in I tend to primarily feel my way through things, im highly affected by how images, sounds and how people make me feel. I find it really hard and annoying being with people I don't like or are annoyed by. Hate to fake and make pleasantries when I don't mean it. This is not to say I don't use my analytical logical side, just have a tendancy towards the feeling side of functioning and therefore a preference for intuition, emotional right brain dominated activities. Growing up as a kid I would always be wary of hurting other peoples feelings as I thought everyone was like me but then I started to realise that people were not and I did not have to treat everyone as I myself like to be treated. This then made me not focus on as much how I liked to be treated. The focus was then on, ok how does this person see the world, how do they like to be treated and then work from there. I love thinking and being around different people as i enjoy trying to get into someones head which sounds very cold but It gives me lots of things to think about and i can then make connections and try and understand what other people focus on. Realising that not everyone was like me helped me stop getting angry or annoyed at some insensitive asshole or someone who obviously sees things differently to me. Understanding instead of reacting. However, this is not always good. I sometimes feel like I always try to "understand" instead of reacting. Often reacting to someone or something is healthy and helps you get something out of your system so to speak. It also highlights areas in yourself that you need to work on or watever. Often if you get angry at someone you are really angry at yourself anyway, or say you are pissed off.. you will be more likely to start fights and make others feel as bad as you do.

I often worry that Im write too "me" based posts. Again this comes back to the fact that I write really "me" based things because I enjoy reading about how people see the world, how they think and so then naturally I want to write about these things in the hope that someone else will look at it and get something from it.

Oh yeah now I know why Im writing this. Honesty. I was reading up on star signs the other day and I read about my own, Sagittarius. One characteristic of a sagittariun is that they are generally honest and often blunt, not meaning to to tread on anyones toes but thats just how they are. I think this is pretty accurate in me and I often still get myself in trouble by honestly stating what I think about things. I tend to be critical and questionary. Therefore my opinions are often not very similar to what the majority of people might think, I also find it very hard to say I like something when I don't.. Because I don't like it.. I used to think that this was because of upbringing and being taught, always tell the truth. But now I question that it could be something inbuilt sorta thing. I have never really followed or listened or agreed with star signs and astrology probably again due to upbringing and that I think alot of the times, your weekly predictions work because you think they will be accurate and you focus on what it tells you and thus attract that very situation.. Or just because you have it in the back of your mind you form the perception of whatever it is that is predicted. Anyway.. tangent. I need to learn when to be honest and when not to be honest. I really dont mean to hurt anyones feelings with say an opinion but I might and then I get annoyed because that was not my intention, I was simply stating what I thought. So its a kanundrum.. on the one hand if im dishonest I feel like crap, If im honest and hurt someones feelings i feel like crap. Its probably just a matter of deciding based on circumstances the best way to say what you think.

Woah... long post. Hopefully someone got something from this, probably not.. probably just misdirected train of thought drivel. Like i said at the start I don't know where Im going with this or what I intended to say or achieve. Often when blogging, Its just a way to clarify / sort out things which I have on my mind lately/at the time. But then again always saying, oh this is how I work, this is what I think is not always good as it makes u rigid and stuck in you ways and maybe not open to new ways of thinking.

Posted by Nathan Kowald @ 8:38 PM